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Touching For a special playtime, increase
sexual tension by allowing looking but no touching, or by delaying touching until
a special point in the evening. Follow up by making a rule that you are allowed
to do all the touching you want, but you're still not allowed penetrative sex!
As it happens, many women prefer to orgasm without penetrative intercourse, so
this one's not such a chore for girls. As for him, if he's still moaning, tell
him there are a few perks. Sex toys and oils are allowed. Pleasuring one another
sexually without (or before) penile penetration can be relaxing …. and stimulating.
It sets the scene for ultimate intimacy and helps us explore our lover's body
and feelings. The video "Original
Guide to Love and Sex" gives some good advice on this trick. They call
this exploration as "genital geography"! Sex toys
can be fun accessories for pleasuring each other - for use on the skin or the
genital area on him or her. Especially fun is the Platypussy
- a battery operated vibrating toy - its beak and paddle are guaranteed to have
you both ducking and writhing.
Body pleasuring using hands or sex toys
is also excellent also if penetration is difficult for some reason. It takes the
pressure off but maintains stimulation and satisfaction. Oral
Sex - Mouth Play
Some lovers love to be stimulated by tongue licking
and sucking. This can be on face, body, erogenous zones like nipples and ear,
as well as on genitals. Check out our DVDs
for great tips on mouth play. LoveLife Plus also defines
'Oral sex' as talking about sex - communication about what lovers like and don't
like sexually can increase intimacy and sexual fulfillment. Books such as Married
Lust and Beyond
Orgasm specifically discuss ways of improving communication between you in
order to give you the better sexlife you want.
Body
massage Touching makes for great foreplay. Whether you use
your oiled hands, your tongue, your breath or an accessory, it will be sensual
and seductive and set the scene for what will follow. A touch
encounter will create a wonderful mood for you both: Have
your partner lay down on something comfortable. The partner receiving the touches
will usually enjoy the experience more if they keep their eyes closed or have
a blindfold on. Then do the following steps, in order. Each step should take anywhere
from 3 to 10 minutes: - Lightly blow on various parts of
your partner's body.
- Take one finger and gingerly trace
your partner's body.
- With your fingertips lightly explore
your partner's body.
- Using something silky, like a silk
scarf or feather, trace your partner's body.
- Using something
slightly damp, like a washcloth or piece of fruit lightly caress your partner's
body.
- With your tongue or your lips give your partner's
body kisses.
- With both hands, gently caress your partner's
body.
To repeat your touch encounter, repeat the steps
above, but pay more attention to your partner's sensitive areas. You may want
to include more steps as well. Just remember to take your time and pay attention
to how your partner reacts to certain things that you do. Make sure you have at
least an hour or two of uninterrupted time.
If
accessories are more your style, select from the body
massagers offered by LoveLife Plus. The Magnifique offers three different
speeds to soothe away those aches and pains or stimulate that special spot, while
the Orgasmatron is perfect for relaxing you both with a sensual head massage Get
into the bath, shower or spa with the powerful waterproof Titan massager - perfect
for those tired muscles.
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