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Getting in the mood - Women's
external genitals (vulvas) are all different and each one has its own unique and
lovely configuration. Likewise each woman is different and her body reflects this
difference in the way she reacts to self-touch.
- Many women
enjoy indulging in romance even during solo sensuality. Look at ideas for creating
a special time at Playtime for Singles. You may find it easier to get into the
mood in a warm and inviting environment where you feel comfortable nude. Setting
a time when you won't be interrupted is important.
- Find
a place that is comfortable for you, perhaps a bath, a sofa, chair or bed. Take
the time to arouse your body. Run your fingertips across your skin caressing and
teasing yourself, exploring your curves, and feeling what happens to your pulse
and breathing. Try stroking your belly, your breasts, and your thighs lightly
with your fingertips. Some women enjoy using baby oil or similar products at this
stage
- Gradually allow you hands to travel lower in your
body. Caress your abdomen, and then start to touch yourself lightly between your
legs. There is no wrong or right way of doing this. Just let your instinct take
over
- Don't forget that your most powerful sexual organ is
your mind. Think of things that turn you on. If you have trouble fantasising,
try a book such as My Secret Garden, pictures or video.
- As
you become more aroused, you might want to use a mirror to explore your vulva.
Notice the folds of your inner labia and the color of your clitoris. Moisten your
fingers and part your lips to see the entrance to the vagina. You might want to
spend a little time getting to know this part of you. Understanding your own body
can help you pleasure yourself, and can also help you describe what you like to
a partner.
- Slip your fingers into your vagina. Try
tightening your muscles round your fingers. Then relax. Try gently stretching
the vaginal opening - this is very pleasurable to many women
Start circling
the area around your clitoris. Don't hurry; just allow yourself to relax and enjoy
what you are doing.
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Technique
There are many ways to masturbate and different women
find different techniques work for them. The secret of female masturbation is
simply to listen to your body and to explore what you enjoy. Do whatever pleases
you in the way that it pleases you. There is no pressure or judgment. The pleasure
is heightened by lubrication either from your own body or from a bottle of a good
lubricant, such as Sylk. Stroking
- Many women enjoy a simple up and down stroke using the middle finger to caress
the clitoris and vulva. Others like to circle the clitoris on the up stroke and
penetrate the vagina on the down stroke. Still others like to trace shapes across
the clitoris and vulva. Rolling
- There are a number of ways to manipulate the clitoris. Lubricate your forefinger
and thumb and place them on either side of the clitoris, rolling the flesh back
and forth between them. Try different techniques, changing pressure, direction
and speed. Drumming - Many
women like to tap their clitoris in a light rhythmic manner, either directly,
just to the side or the top both inside the labia minora and outside the labia
majora. Water play - Water
massage is a highly popular method of masturbation. You can either position yourself
under the tap, in front of a spa jet or use a shower head to massage the clitoris
and vulva. Rocking - Rhythmically
rocking or squeezing thighs together repeatedly can produce an orgasm for some
women, while others rock against a solid object such as the arm of a chair or
a pillow. Mixed techniques
- Many enjoy doing several things at once. Examples include stimulating the clitoris
and vagina at the same time, penetrating the vagina and anus at the same time
or stimulating the clitoris, vagina and anus all at once. One technique is to
use two lubricated fingers to penetrate the vagina and rub the g-spot while rubbing
the clitoris concurrently with the thumb. Remember it's fine to go from vagina
to anus with a finger or object but not the other way around. Using
textures - Fabric is deeply erotic for some women who like to manipulate
cotton panties or sheets to rub their clitoris or slide a silk stocking between
their labia. Positions - You
may find a change of position or place provides new physical sensations or feeds
new fantasies. Masturbate lying on your belly, standing against a wall or in a
different setting to usual. Once you've found some manual
techniques that work well you might want to explore adding sex toys, erotica and
other stimulations. Be willing to try new things. Choose what works for you -
you don't have to share this part of your sex life with anyone if you don't want
to. Benefits of Masturbation for
Women
Masturbation has many benefits for a
woman… - It relieves stress, frustration and tension
increases overall happiness and improves health.
- Orgasm
can strengthen the immune system, the cardiovascular system and the endocrine
system.
- Increasing blood flow to the body through sexual
arousal can add to your overall vitality and youthfulness - so if you "use
it, you won't lose it"!
- Increased blood flow brings
fresh oxygen and healthful hormones to the organs while removing toxins.
- Sexually
active individuals may tend to live longer.
- Regular sexual
activity boosts the production of the vital hormones estrogen and testosterone
that strengthen bones and muscles.
- Orgasm reduces "bad"
LDL cholesterol and helps maintain vaginal elasticity and lubricity.
- It
can also help you maintain better relationships through the production of oxytocin,
a hormone related to social skills and personality.
- Masturbation
lets you enjoy pleasure when you want as often as you want, without worrying about
disease, pregnancy or emotional consequences, while letting you explore your fantasies.
- It
lets you be the focus of pleasure, with timing, mood and intensity all matched
to your needs. For many women, it produces deeper and more satisfying orgasms
than with a partner, but is also a great way to improve sex with a partner because
it enhances your self knowledge about what really excites you.
| SELF-PLEASURING
MAY BE ENHANCED BY USING ACCESSORIES:
Silicone
toys
Body
massagers
Lubricant
Books
Sex-ercisers
For
a book dedicated to teaching women the art of self-loving, check out Betty
Dodson's Sex for One
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